Being your own leader begins with the acknowledgment that you are the creator of the leader you want to be. Once acknowledged, you can begin to lead from the inside, rather than striving for approval from the outside or mimicking another’s stye. You start empowering you, just as you are.
That means you begin to look inside yourself for who you are, how you want to show up and what you want to create. Said another way, “being your own leader” is stepping into the authenticity you were born with and custom-designing the way you are meant to lead around it.
The reality is your leadership is not happening without you. You are the captain of your ship. By being your own leader, you’ll find it’s easier to go with the current than it is to struggle to go upstream. And if you drift into unchartered water, encounter choppy waves or find yourself going against the current, you’ll recognize opportunities for learning, growth and course correction.
To be your own leader, you shed blame and let go of the desire to prove worth. Instead, you center on self-awareness and self-authority while recognizing imperfection is the nature of being human.
Here are three tips central to “being your own leader:”
Check the intentions of being your own leader.
Your intentions create thoughts. Your thoughts form actions. And your actions produce consequences.
Intention –> Thoughts –> Actions –> Consequences
Think of intention as one with cause and effect. You are the source of your power. You have the capacity to lead from within and create the experiences for you and your team. Become aware of the intentions that are informing your experiences. Begin to choose the intentions in accordance with the way in which you want to “be your own leader.”
Challenge the beliefs you hold for your own leader.
You are where you are and you are going where you are going because of your beliefs. Your belief system shapes your leadership.
How you perceive is a result of your beliefs. What you know to be true is driven by your beliefs. Whether you move forward, go backwards or stay put is determined by your beliefs. The judgments you have about yourself and others are influenced by your beliefs.
What are your beliefs? How do those beliefs help you, limit you, empower you and shape you? Dig into the shadows for beliefs that you may be unaware of. Challenge beliefs that no longer serve. Gain clarity about beliefs that best serve “being your own leader.” Lean into those beliefs.
Take responsibility for your own leader.
Circumstances in your leadership are not “happening out of the blue.” Rather they are unfolding in direct response to who you are being, what you are creating and how you are responding.
You are calling in joy, triumphs, trials and tribulations. Those results are not happening without your involvement. You are in the driver’s seat. That’s not to say that leadership is one easy road.
Take responsibility to dive into each moment and live the fullness of each experience – good and bad. Be your own leader with responsibility grounded in self-awareness, actions versus reactions and growth via continuous learning.
With these three tips, you cultivate the power in choosing to lead from the inside out rather than the outside in. In doing so, you claim your right to be your own leader.